Emptying yourself
to fill everyone else
ends here.
You understand your patterns. You can trace them back, name the wound, explain the whole architecture of it. And when someone's upset, you still over-explain before they even ask. You still cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You are still making progress, then slipping back. Still ok as you always are -- and still suffering in your own body. Clarity about a pattern has never been the same as freedom from it. These habits live in your nervous system, not your thinking mind. That is where the work has to happen.
Which of these is you?
Read each one slowly. The one that makes you exhale and say "that's me" -- start there.
You keep abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.
You say yes when you mean no. You over-explain every boundary until it collapses into a permission slip. You are emptying yourself to fill everyone else and have no idea what you actually feel anymore. You make progress and then slip right back. The problem is not that you do not know what is happening -- you watch yourself do it in real time. The Shift is where you build the nervous system capacity to actually do something different.
Take me to The Shift Signals & Safety • $997Your body keeps ambushing you and you cannot think your way out of it.
The anxiety with no obvious cause. The freeze when you need to speak up. Living in survival mode so long it feels like your default. Wired and tired at the same time. You know in your mind that you are safe -- and your body will not receive that information. Signals & Safety gives you the actual map: what your nervous system is doing, why, and how to work with it instead of being run by it.
Take me to Signals & Safety The Relationship Reset • $997Your patterns live most loudly in relationship -- and you feel it every time.
You rehearse the conversation for three days and still say the wrong thing under pressure. You feel completely alone in a room full of people who love you. You end something that was wrong for you and immediately miss it. You go from one relationship to the next, putting them first, yourself last, wondering how you keep ending up here. Your nervous system has been writing these patterns your whole life. The Relationship Reset is where you rewrite them.
Take me to The Relationship Reset Anchored • Waitlist Open • Next cohort 2027You are ready for the full live experience -- coaching, community, six months all in.
You are hanging by a thread. You have been at this long enough to know that another book, another insight, another podcast episode is not what changes things. You want live coaching, a community that actually gets it, and the kind of held practice a self-paced course cannot replicate. When someone asked what it would cost you to not change, your gut answer was: everything. That is Anchored. Our next cohort will be in 2027 -- join the waitlist and do one of the open courses while you wait.
Join the Anchored waitlistThree courses.
Same root. Different door.
Each one is $997, self-paced, and built for lifetime access. They run on the same nervous system framework. The difference is where you feel it most.
From Emotional Outsourcing to Unshakeable Self-Trust
Stop watching yourself people-please in slow motion. Build the nervous system capacity to actually do something different.
Emotional Outsourcing -- the habitual pattern of sourcing safety, worth, and belonging from other people rather than from within -- is persistent because it lives in the nervous system, not the thinking mind. You cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You say yes when everything in you means no. You have watched yourself do it and been genuinely bewildered. The Shift is 12 weeks of structured somatic practice built around the three needs at the root of every Emotional Outsourcing pattern: safety, worth, and belonging. The same foundational methodology as Anchored, structured entirely around your own life.
- 6 teaching modules (40-48 min each)
- 6 private podcast Q&A episodes answering your specific questions
- Somatic movement training videos to use in real time
- 12 workbooks with daily trackers and real-life scripts
- Lifetime access -- download everything, return whenever you need it
Lifetime access • Start immediately
Nervous System Foundations
Your body keeps ambushing you. This is where you get the map -- and learn to work with your nervous system instead of being run by it.
You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does -- the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives -- your nervous system, your physiology -- is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you.
- 6 teaching modules on nervous system states, stress responses, and regulation
- 6 private podcast Q&A episodes answering your specific questions
- Somatic movement training videos for grounding and embodied practice
- Workbooks to track what is actually shifting in real time
- Lifetime access at whatever pace your nervous system needs
Lifetime access • Start immediately
Regulate to Relate
Stop cycling from obsessed to overwhelmed. Learn what your nervous system is actually doing in relationship -- and how to change it.
She rehearses the conversation for three days and still says the wrong thing under pressure. He ends it with the person who was wrong for him and immediately misses them. She is surrounded by people who love her and feels completely alone. Your nervous system has been writing your relationship patterns your whole life. The Relationship Reset is 12 weeks of self-paced work built around one foundational truth: regulation is the prerequisite for real connection. Thirteen teaching modules, private podcast Q&A, somatic practices, workbooks, lifetime access. You stop treating a text that says "hey, can we talk?" like an incoming emergency. Everything changes from there.
- 13 teaching modules on relational nervous system patterns
- Private podcast Q&A episodes answering your specific questions
- Somatic practices built specifically for relational triggers
- Workbooks and lifetime access
Lifetime access • Start immediately
The courses give you the framework.
Anchored gives you Béa in the room with you.
Anchored
Overcoming Codependency -- the six-month small group coaching program
Waitlist Open • Next cohort in 2027You have been dealing with this for years. Decades, maybe. Something recent made it undeniable -- a relationship ending, your health, turning 50, seeing your patterns in your kids. Six months of live weekly coaching, daily community support, and the full depth of this work with Béa directly. You are not doing this alone.
- Weekly live group coaching sessions with Béa
- Daily written coaching in a private, distraction-free community
- Weekly private podcast lessons, downloadable and yours to keep forever
- Somatic movement training, breathwork, and meditation library
- Guest expert coaching and monthly breathwork sessions
- $10,000 • 6 months • Payment plans up to 5 months
Béa Albina,
NP, MPH, SEP
Béa is a UCSF-trained Nurse Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. She is the creator of the term Emotional Outsourcing -- her framework for the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that disconnect people from their self-trust, their boundaries, and their own desires.
She is the bestselling author of End Emotional Outsourcing (Hachette, 2025) and the host of the Feminist Wellness podcast. Her work bridges nervous system regulation, somatic healing, and intersectional feminism -- rooted in the belief that you do not have to earn your worth.
Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina and raised in Rhode Island. She lives with her partner Billey, too many houseplants, a mischievous cat, and a deep reverence for the earth beneath her feet.
Shorter courses.
Specific work.
Want to go deep on one specific thing before committing to a full 12-week program? These courses are complete on their own -- and they are built to connect with the bigger programs when you are ready.
Boundaries & Brave Conversations
Say no and mean it. The body-based work behind holding a boundary without over-explaining until it becomes a yes.
Enroll nowFeel Your Feelings
For people who understand their emotions intellectually and have spent a lifetime doing everything except actually being with them.
Enroll nowHerbs for Anxious Hearts
20 years of herbalism practice. The plants that actually support nervous system steadiness -- and how to work with them.
Enroll nowSomatics 101 Workshop
New to somatic work? This is what it means to live in your body -- and why working at that level changes what thinking alone never could.
Enroll nowRelationship Reset + Boundaries Bundle
Both courses together. Regulate in relationship, then hold the line. The full arc, saving $150 on the pair.
Enroll nowBrowse the full library
New courses added regularly. Visit the Somatic Studio to see everything available.
See all coursesThere is no wrong door.
All of these programs run on the same framework. You can enter anywhere and the work will build. Here is a quick guide if you want one:
Pick the $997 course that names where you hurt most.
People-pleasing, over-functioning, self-abandonment? The Shift. Anxiety, freeze responses, nervous system confusion? Signals & Safety. Your patterns show up most loudly in relationship? The Relationship Reset. Start with the one that made you exhale when you read it.
Want to start smaller? The Somatic Studio has you.
The $37-$97 courses in the Studio let you work on one specific piece -- boundaries, feelings, plants, somatics. Each one is complete on its own and built as an on-ramp to the bigger programs when you are ready to go deeper.
Ready for the full live experience? Get on the Anchored waitlist.
Anchored is six months of live small group coaching with Béa -- the deepest work available. Our next cohort will be in 2027. Join the waitlist now and do a Studio course or one of the $997 programs while you wait.